Man, I'm sorry, I know you'd rather I didn't "jump in" to your other conversations. But it's rare that I see somebody be so wrong with such utter confidence. It feels as if you've spent zero time talking to black people or thinking about what it's like to be black beyond a few silly stereotypes, but nonetheless formed all these firm opin…
Man, I'm sorry, I know you'd rather I didn't "jump in" to your other conversations. But it's rare that I see somebody be so wrong with such utter confidence. It feels as if you've spent zero time talking to black people or thinking about what it's like to be black beyond a few silly stereotypes, but nonetheless formed all these firm opinions on the topic.
Yes, of course some black people wish they were white. Or, to least, have wished it when they were younger and figuring themselves out. Many black people have even written about it (though obviously, I think many others keep those thoughts to themselves). Here are a few examples.
I suspect this is true of any marginalised group. I'm sure some gay people wish they were straight just because it would make certain aspects of life easier. Many pubescent teenage girls wish they were boys, again, because life is easier in many ways. The sharp rise in trans and non binary identifying females is evidence of this.
Being a straight, white, man, even with the grief you'll occasionally get if you spend too much time on Twitter or Medium, is still the easiest configuration of traits to have. This isn't some kind of accusation. You're not a bad person because of this. I have two of those three myself. And of course, there are a bunch of other traits like being intelligent or good-looking or having a good family that factor in as well.
But yeah, seriously, I find it very difficult to believe you've ever had a conversation with a black person about race with any intention other than to explain why you're right about racism and they're wrong. And I'm not saying that black people have it all correct because they're black. But they have an experience that you lack. So at least give them an honest listen. And give what they say some honest thought.
"Hey, he’s probably been to LA and NYC. Thats like all of America"
😂I know what it's like to be black in America because I've spent a lot of time living in America. Most of my extended family is in America. And this, for the record, is an ad hominem. An ad hominem based on no actual knowledge of me or my life to boot. The only reason you know who I am is because I write about race, often about race in America, and I do so accurately enough that I've got quite a large audience.
I have to find links on the internet for you because how else am I supposed to demonstrate anything to you? Certainly you're not going to take my word for it. And clearly you've not spoken to any black people about it yourself. I didn't say that they spoke for everybody. That, as we're talking debate fallacies, is a straw man. You said that the number was zero percent. It's not.
But yes, you've reduced the entire black experience in America to college diversity admissions, rap music, and sagging pants. In the first of these areas, yes, there are some advantages to being black. But if this represents being black in America to you, I'm not sure I'll ever get through to you.
Stop treating this like a fight. Accept the possibility that you might be missing something here. Recognise that even if you are, nothing bad is going to happen. In fact, you'll come away with a broader understanding if you allow yourself to.
Your case? I'm not trying to debate with you. I think you are a troll so that would be an exercise in futility. I just remarked about something I've observed over the years.
It was an opinion ("I think"); I could be wrong. All opinions could be wrong. So far, I'm just observing how you came onto Steve's substack and said the stuff you have said to him thay seem a bit troll-like. Just my impression.
"you’re intellectually dishonest, have no curiosity, know nothing, and are racist”"
Why lie? I have said absolutely none of this. In fact, you kicked off our conversation with the charming, "There are so many errors here it is hard to keep up..."
The closest is that I said it "feels as if you're being wilfully dishonest." I'm explaining how what you're saying seems to me. As Dave pints out above, there's a difference between an option and an attack. And this was in response to you talking as if freed blacks, during slavery, were treated with any kind of dignity because "the law code specifically addressed blacks."
I haven't played wounded at all. In fact, I've largely ignored your many insults and jabs. You, on the other hand, keep trying to twist my words into personal attacks when they haven't been. But I'm not going to continue to ignore obvious bad faith and lies.
If this is what you call setting the table for civil discussion then I'll stop wasting my time.
Yes you can. So go ahead and quote me. Don't just selectively edit a few words. Quote the sentence. If you can't (spoiler: you can't), have the decency to admit the error or become the first person I've ever banned on here.
I very much welcome diverse opinions here. I won't tolerate liars.
p.s. Why on earth do you think I wouldn't say all of this to your face? I haven't said anything rude? You're simply not actually reading what's being said. I'm a writer. I choose my words carefully.
Can you not understand how challenging Steve's thought based upon your assumption of his nationality, where he lives and if he has real experience as a black man in America doesn't sound like an invitation to civil discussion? I didn't start with that stuff either.
I'm certainly willing to start over with you. I don't know you or your life experience, it doesn't seem to match up to mine, so we have different views on some things, but I'm not known to walk in lockstep with people and that's OK.
Jason, you are a provocateur. You burst in here throwing insults and goads and most of us instantly regarded you as a troll, not that everyone made a point of saying so.
At this point your welcome is worn out; if you really want a serious discussion, and I honestly don't believe you do, but then I am a clinically angry son of a bitch myself and have little room to judge.
Steve is one of the most equanimous and fair people I have ever run into online, and if he is exasperated with you ... well.
But in the event I am wrong about your veracity, I would recommend you create a new account, make no reference to the Jason one, and start over.
"I only was responding to Steve’s demeaning attacks that I know nothing and have no curiosity."
Once again, I didn't say this. I also told you that I've spent many years living in America. And that most of my family still ives there. My knowledge isn't from the internet. I've had many, many first person conversations with people who lived through Jim Crow. My grandparents on my father and mother's side, many of my aunts and uncles. I've heard countless stories that you won't find on the internet. I'm extremely confident that I've got far more direct experience of racism in America, both past and present, than you have. Plus the fact that I've spent the past two years writing and intensively researching race and race history. Who should be deferring here?
But of course your reductive, ill-informed arguments about me don't count as disrespectful, right?
And frankly, even if I'd never spent a single minute in America, this idea that "plenty of people identify as black for the 'benefits'" or that Obama being black was advantageous for him in his presidential run, made it immediately clear that you aren't a reliable source of information about race in America.
Man, I've really only been lightly frustrated by your arguments until this point. But outright dishonesty really gets me.
Man, I'm sorry, I know you'd rather I didn't "jump in" to your other conversations. But it's rare that I see somebody be so wrong with such utter confidence. It feels as if you've spent zero time talking to black people or thinking about what it's like to be black beyond a few silly stereotypes, but nonetheless formed all these firm opinions on the topic.
Yes, of course some black people wish they were white. Or, to least, have wished it when they were younger and figuring themselves out. Many black people have even written about it (though obviously, I think many others keep those thoughts to themselves). Here are a few examples.
http://shalominthecity.com/2013/10/25/sometimes-i-wish-i-were-white/
https://julianayaz.medium.com/sometimes-i-wish-i-was-white-704c2d7c5055
https://secure.wesleyan.org/6597/shes-4-years-old-and-wishes-she-was-white
https://theracecardproject.com/wish-white/
https://www.npr.org/sections/bryantpark/2007/11/sometimes_i_wish_i_was_white_y.html
I suspect this is true of any marginalised group. I'm sure some gay people wish they were straight just because it would make certain aspects of life easier. Many pubescent teenage girls wish they were boys, again, because life is easier in many ways. The sharp rise in trans and non binary identifying females is evidence of this.
Being a straight, white, man, even with the grief you'll occasionally get if you spend too much time on Twitter or Medium, is still the easiest configuration of traits to have. This isn't some kind of accusation. You're not a bad person because of this. I have two of those three myself. And of course, there are a bunch of other traits like being intelligent or good-looking or having a good family that factor in as well.
But yeah, seriously, I find it very difficult to believe you've ever had a conversation with a black person about race with any intention other than to explain why you're right about racism and they're wrong. And I'm not saying that black people have it all correct because they're black. But they have an experience that you lack. So at least give them an honest listen. And give what they say some honest thought.
"Hey, he’s probably been to LA and NYC. Thats like all of America"
😂I know what it's like to be black in America because I've spent a lot of time living in America. Most of my extended family is in America. And this, for the record, is an ad hominem. An ad hominem based on no actual knowledge of me or my life to boot. The only reason you know who I am is because I write about race, often about race in America, and I do so accurately enough that I've got quite a large audience.
I have to find links on the internet for you because how else am I supposed to demonstrate anything to you? Certainly you're not going to take my word for it. And clearly you've not spoken to any black people about it yourself. I didn't say that they spoke for everybody. That, as we're talking debate fallacies, is a straw man. You said that the number was zero percent. It's not.
But yes, you've reduced the entire black experience in America to college diversity admissions, rap music, and sagging pants. In the first of these areas, yes, there are some advantages to being black. But if this represents being black in America to you, I'm not sure I'll ever get through to you.
Stop treating this like a fight. Accept the possibility that you might be missing something here. Recognise that even if you are, nothing bad is going to happen. In fact, you'll come away with a broader understanding if you allow yourself to.
When someone refers to "black people" as "blacks", it's a tell. I'm not talking political correctness, just something I've noticed over the years.
“When someone refers to "black people" as "blacks"”
100%.
I never felt that to be racist but then I am so far off the grid that I can't keep up.
Your case? I'm not trying to debate with you. I think you are a troll so that would be an exercise in futility. I just remarked about something I've observed over the years.
No, it does not. It is an accurate appraisal of your behavior.
It was an opinion ("I think"); I could be wrong. All opinions could be wrong. So far, I'm just observing how you came onto Steve's substack and said the stuff you have said to him thay seem a bit troll-like. Just my impression.
"you’re intellectually dishonest, have no curiosity, know nothing, and are racist”"
Why lie? I have said absolutely none of this. In fact, you kicked off our conversation with the charming, "There are so many errors here it is hard to keep up..."
The closest is that I said it "feels as if you're being wilfully dishonest." I'm explaining how what you're saying seems to me. As Dave pints out above, there's a difference between an option and an attack. And this was in response to you talking as if freed blacks, during slavery, were treated with any kind of dignity because "the law code specifically addressed blacks."
I haven't played wounded at all. In fact, I've largely ignored your many insults and jabs. You, on the other hand, keep trying to twist my words into personal attacks when they haven't been. But I'm not going to continue to ignore obvious bad faith and lies.
If this is what you call setting the table for civil discussion then I'll stop wasting my time.
You don't tell the host of the forum to go away.
"I can read your words in black and white"
Yes you can. So go ahead and quote me. Don't just selectively edit a few words. Quote the sentence. If you can't (spoiler: you can't), have the decency to admit the error or become the first person I've ever banned on here.
I very much welcome diverse opinions here. I won't tolerate liars.
p.s. Why on earth do you think I wouldn't say all of this to your face? I haven't said anything rude? You're simply not actually reading what's being said. I'm a writer. I choose my words carefully.
I'll have to Google braver angels.
Can you not understand how challenging Steve's thought based upon your assumption of his nationality, where he lives and if he has real experience as a black man in America doesn't sound like an invitation to civil discussion? I didn't start with that stuff either.
I'm certainly willing to start over with you. I don't know you or your life experience, it doesn't seem to match up to mine, so we have different views on some things, but I'm not known to walk in lockstep with people and that's OK.
BETTER angels of our nature. Lincoln, first inaugural address.
Jason, you are a provocateur. You burst in here throwing insults and goads and most of us instantly regarded you as a troll, not that everyone made a point of saying so.
At this point your welcome is worn out; if you really want a serious discussion, and I honestly don't believe you do, but then I am a clinically angry son of a bitch myself and have little room to judge.
Steve is one of the most equanimous and fair people I have ever run into online, and if he is exasperated with you ... well.
But in the event I am wrong about your veracity, I would recommend you create a new account, make no reference to the Jason one, and start over.
"I only was responding to Steve’s demeaning attacks that I know nothing and have no curiosity."
Once again, I didn't say this. I also told you that I've spent many years living in America. And that most of my family still ives there. My knowledge isn't from the internet. I've had many, many first person conversations with people who lived through Jim Crow. My grandparents on my father and mother's side, many of my aunts and uncles. I've heard countless stories that you won't find on the internet. I'm extremely confident that I've got far more direct experience of racism in America, both past and present, than you have. Plus the fact that I've spent the past two years writing and intensively researching race and race history. Who should be deferring here?
But of course your reductive, ill-informed arguments about me don't count as disrespectful, right?
And frankly, even if I'd never spent a single minute in America, this idea that "plenty of people identify as black for the 'benefits'" or that Obama being black was advantageous for him in his presidential run, made it immediately clear that you aren't a reliable source of information about race in America.
Man, I've really only been lightly frustrated by your arguments until this point. But outright dishonesty really gets me.