“Predatory men can sense who won't take their shit.” Agreed. When I was in the military, I didn't really have any problems. I was approached and lightly harrassed a couple of times and they desisted when I asked them to. But, I had 2 things going for me: 1 - small breasts. Which helps. Also, I held this thought in my head all the time (a…
“Predatory men can sense who won't take their shit.” Agreed. When I was in the military, I didn't really have any problems. I was approached and lightly harrassed a couple of times and they desisted when I asked them to. But, I had 2 things going for me: 1 - small breasts. Which helps. Also, I held this thought in my head all the time (and still do today): “I will fight you to the death if you attack me.” Predators do, indeed, pick up on this vibe.
Also, I will say that many, if not most instances of sexual harrassment and predatory behavior in the military involve alcohol. There are some outliers to be sure. But, most soldiers are good people.
I've sometimes wondered whether it happens to every woman. I have a writer friend who's one of the most badass 70-year-old bitches you've ever seen, and a military veteran. She was raped multiple times. It seems to be pretty common, AFAICT.
Perhaps not every woman, but a concerning percentage. I was never attacked sexually as an adult woman. Only as a very young child. Probably why I am so fierce about it never happening again. I am the kind of person that if I was unable to fend off an attack for some reason, I would pursue and kill the perp without compunction, knowing that I would spend the rest of my days in prison.
“Predatory men can sense who won't take their shit.” Agreed. When I was in the military, I didn't really have any problems. I was approached and lightly harrassed a couple of times and they desisted when I asked them to. But, I had 2 things going for me: 1 - small breasts. Which helps. Also, I held this thought in my head all the time (and still do today): “I will fight you to the death if you attack me.” Predators do, indeed, pick up on this vibe.
Also, I will say that many, if not most instances of sexual harrassment and predatory behavior in the military involve alcohol. There are some outliers to be sure. But, most soldiers are good people.
I've sometimes wondered whether it happens to every woman. I have a writer friend who's one of the most badass 70-year-old bitches you've ever seen, and a military veteran. She was raped multiple times. It seems to be pretty common, AFAICT.
Perhaps not every woman, but a concerning percentage. I was never attacked sexually as an adult woman. Only as a very young child. Probably why I am so fierce about it never happening again. I am the kind of person that if I was unable to fend off an attack for some reason, I would pursue and kill the perp without compunction, knowing that I would spend the rest of my days in prison.