The thread has gotten too complicated for me to respond to this in any specific way.
It is clear that somehow I trigger you.
On projecting, its certainly possible. I don't spend allot of time editing to make sure my statements are about me and my view of your comment versus absolutes "truths" about you.
The thread has gotten too complicated for me to respond to this in any specific way.
It is clear that somehow I trigger you.
On projecting, its certainly possible. I don't spend allot of time editing to make sure my statements are about me and my view of your comment versus absolutes "truths" about you.
In the mankind project there is a process called a "clearing" that helps the person making a judgement claim about someone else sort out whether they are projecting. Its a very interesting process to go through. Very insightful to help me understand when I make a judgement whether I its a projection.
Finding me frustrating is not necessarily bad. You're being exposed to communication styles that you seem to not like. That's OK.
Differentiating be whether you're saying I'm weird by saying my comment is weird is a red herring. If I make comments that you find weird, you are saying that at times I'm weird. You're basically just saying my writing and thus I'm not weird all the time. Just at times.
No, saying someone said something weird, or even that they do weird things sometimes, is clearly not the same as saying that they ARE weird.
You can say someone is funny sometimes, that doesn't mean you think they ARE a funny person. You can say someone is mean sometimes, that doesn't mean you think they ARE a mean person. Silly, angry, smart, these can all be transitory qualities.
Almost everyone has said something weird at some point in their lives, same for, funny, unreasonable, etc. that doesn't mean they ARE weird, funny, unreasonable etc, people.
It is rather simple-minded to be unable to distinguish between an observation of your behaviour and a judgement of you as a person.
In general I refrain from characterizing comments as weird. What I'm looking for is whether they make the comment about them or me. I get in that case I am weird. I challenge comments about me versus about you.
One of the biggest faults that I have is that I don't proof read my comments very well. It would be good if I did that more. Including possibly running my comments through ChatGPT to get its perspective. I haven't done that because for me this is just learning. Even writing the comment helps me clarify what my position is on the topic.
You on the other hand are soliciting a following of readers. Making sure the content is engaging, proof read, and coherent is part of the product you are creating.
The thread has gotten too complicated for me to respond to this in any specific way.
It is clear that somehow I trigger you.
On projecting, its certainly possible. I don't spend allot of time editing to make sure my statements are about me and my view of your comment versus absolutes "truths" about you.
In the mankind project there is a process called a "clearing" that helps the person making a judgement claim about someone else sort out whether they are projecting. Its a very interesting process to go through. Very insightful to help me understand when I make a judgement whether I its a projection.
Finding me frustrating is not necessarily bad. You're being exposed to communication styles that you seem to not like. That's OK.
Differentiating be whether you're saying I'm weird by saying my comment is weird is a red herring. If I make comments that you find weird, you are saying that at times I'm weird. You're basically just saying my writing and thus I'm not weird all the time. Just at times.
No, saying someone said something weird, or even that they do weird things sometimes, is clearly not the same as saying that they ARE weird.
You can say someone is funny sometimes, that doesn't mean you think they ARE a funny person. You can say someone is mean sometimes, that doesn't mean you think they ARE a mean person. Silly, angry, smart, these can all be transitory qualities.
Almost everyone has said something weird at some point in their lives, same for, funny, unreasonable, etc. that doesn't mean they ARE weird, funny, unreasonable etc, people.
It is rather simple-minded to be unable to distinguish between an observation of your behaviour and a judgement of you as a person.
I guess I'm simple minded.
In general I refrain from characterizing comments as weird. What I'm looking for is whether they make the comment about them or me. I get in that case I am weird. I challenge comments about me versus about you.
One of the biggest faults that I have is that I don't proof read my comments very well. It would be good if I did that more. Including possibly running my comments through ChatGPT to get its perspective. I haven't done that because for me this is just learning. Even writing the comment helps me clarify what my position is on the topic.
You on the other hand are soliciting a following of readers. Making sure the content is engaging, proof read, and coherent is part of the product you are creating.