No! I'm not a part of the LGBTQ+ community so when I mention people cleaning their own house it's not my house to clean. You appear to be gay with the Rogue4Gay handle and apparently are a trans advocate (correct me if that's wrong) so I am not projecting, I am saying exactly what I meant.
No, you are not clear on your position. And Steve can only rarely decipher what your position IS, because you twist and turn seemingly in whatever direction prevents you from acknowledging when you make a mistake. Please don't use me as an argument from authority.
"It's amazing how hard it is for people to communicate now a days."
Weren't you just criticising people for not speaking for themselves? Why not acknowledge that it's hard for YOU to communicate? The only person who seems to be having communication problems is you.
😂 Man, I would never do anything at all based solely on your recommendation. Never mind something called a "mankind warrior weekend."
And yes, actually, I'd sincerely say you're in the top five of people I've ever had communication problems with. You don't listen, you don't absorb new information, and you don't engage with people pointing out you're wrong.
Again, I know I'm very, very far from the only person who's given you this feedback, but you don't appear to self-reflect at all. That's not something a weekend retreat will fix.
"Again, I know I'm very, very far from the only person who's given you this feedback, but you don't appear to self-reflect at all."
How do you "know" this?
The most common feedback I get from people is that I'm the most transparent person they know. Including my daughters and son, my x-wife, my husband, my good friends, etc.
I have a master's degree in computer engineering (the college must have thought I could communicate) I was very very very well respected (and well paid) in the technology industry and now own my own company. I have done multiple men's weekends and run multiple mens groups and was very respected in all.
You don't know me because you don't want to know me. You just want to direct the discussion and when it doesn't go the way you want, you claim I'm misdirecting.
You're very indicative of the concept that Douglass Adam's created in Hitchhikers Guide. You focus on the answer to "life the universe and everything" as 42. His point was that the question is more important than the answer. Most people never understand that.
See, this is sad. You know that you've received this feedback many times. But instead of reflecting on that, instead of thinking about why that is and whether you should take a look at how you think and communicate, you try to shift the topic to how I know something that you also know.
Then you write this long CV boasting about how everyone thinks you're amazing as if I should believe or care about any of it.
I know you've received this feedback because I've seen dozens of your conversations with other people. Both here and on Medium. I've seen this pattern of you trying to "win" a debate rather than trying to understand and learn and think critically many times before. You skip over points where you're clearly wrong, you ignore facts and data when they're presented to you if they conflict with your gut feelings. And you claim knowledge of topics when it's obvious to anybody who has actually studied them that you know very little.
I've seen people call you out on it time and time again. You know this. I know this. So why play this game where you ask me how I know?
The only reason why I ever bother to engage with you is that I know that when you aren't trying to "win" a debate and are genuinely approaching a conversation as a conversation, we can have perfectly fine, occasionally even interesting interactions.
Anyway, this is getting counterproductive and I have better things to do than online psychoanalysing a stranger. You've had the feedback. Do with it what you will. I hope you choose to do something productive with it.
I have no interest in trying to be everything to everybody.
You criticizing my written communication style is as much about you as you think its about me. From a simple psychological perspective, they would all tell me to ignore your position. Why, because its not affecting my life. I'm doing fine. I wrote the details on my CV as evidence of that.
As I had said before, you can choose to be and communicate anyway you want. The challenge of us communicating and your need to somehow believe your position on my communication style is an absolute says allot about how you view the world. It does not say anything about me.
I don't speak on their behalf. I speak on what I believe. There are trans-activists who don't agree with my position including the HRC. There are trans people who largely agree with my thoughts.
From an action point of view I have made the following suggestion to trans-activists. If you really want to help the larger trans community, make peace with JK Rowling. They generally don't like me suggested that to them.
That's good advice for them, I agree. I asked you to tell me if it was wrong. So you don't consider yourself to be a trans advocate. Thanks for the clarification.
You have an interesting writing style by using “you can.” That writing style from my perspective is focused on projection.
Rephrase what you wrote using “I” instead of “you”.
No! I'm not a part of the LGBTQ+ community so when I mention people cleaning their own house it's not my house to clean. You appear to be gay with the Rogue4Gay handle and apparently are a trans advocate (correct me if that's wrong) so I am not projecting, I am saying exactly what I meant.
I do not know what a "trans-advocate" means.
I am clear on my position. Seems Steve agrees with my position.
What do you believe a "trans-advocate" is?
No, you are not clear on your position. And Steve can only rarely decipher what your position IS, because you twist and turn seemingly in whatever direction prevents you from acknowledging when you make a mistake. Please don't use me as an argument from authority.
Its amazing how hard it is for people to communicate now a days.
No wonder the US, UK and much of the world is so divided.
"It's amazing how hard it is for people to communicate now a days."
Weren't you just criticising people for not speaking for themselves? Why not acknowledge that it's hard for YOU to communicate? The only person who seems to be having communication problems is you.
LOL. I’m the only person in the world that you know that you have communication problems with. I very very very much doubt that.
Once again, I suggest you look at going on a mankind warrior weekend. After you do that, I’m confident we’ll be able to communicate!
😂 Man, I would never do anything at all based solely on your recommendation. Never mind something called a "mankind warrior weekend."
And yes, actually, I'd sincerely say you're in the top five of people I've ever had communication problems with. You don't listen, you don't absorb new information, and you don't engage with people pointing out you're wrong.
Again, I know I'm very, very far from the only person who's given you this feedback, but you don't appear to self-reflect at all. That's not something a weekend retreat will fix.
"Again, I know I'm very, very far from the only person who's given you this feedback, but you don't appear to self-reflect at all."
How do you "know" this?
The most common feedback I get from people is that I'm the most transparent person they know. Including my daughters and son, my x-wife, my husband, my good friends, etc.
I have a master's degree in computer engineering (the college must have thought I could communicate) I was very very very well respected (and well paid) in the technology industry and now own my own company. I have done multiple men's weekends and run multiple mens groups and was very respected in all.
You don't know me because you don't want to know me. You just want to direct the discussion and when it doesn't go the way you want, you claim I'm misdirecting.
You're very indicative of the concept that Douglass Adam's created in Hitchhikers Guide. You focus on the answer to "life the universe and everything" as 42. His point was that the question is more important than the answer. Most people never understand that.
"How do you "know" this?"
See, this is sad. You know that you've received this feedback many times. But instead of reflecting on that, instead of thinking about why that is and whether you should take a look at how you think and communicate, you try to shift the topic to how I know something that you also know.
Then you write this long CV boasting about how everyone thinks you're amazing as if I should believe or care about any of it.
I know you've received this feedback because I've seen dozens of your conversations with other people. Both here and on Medium. I've seen this pattern of you trying to "win" a debate rather than trying to understand and learn and think critically many times before. You skip over points where you're clearly wrong, you ignore facts and data when they're presented to you if they conflict with your gut feelings. And you claim knowledge of topics when it's obvious to anybody who has actually studied them that you know very little.
I've seen people call you out on it time and time again. You know this. I know this. So why play this game where you ask me how I know?
The only reason why I ever bother to engage with you is that I know that when you aren't trying to "win" a debate and are genuinely approaching a conversation as a conversation, we can have perfectly fine, occasionally even interesting interactions.
Anyway, this is getting counterproductive and I have better things to do than online psychoanalysing a stranger. You've had the feedback. Do with it what you will. I hope you choose to do something productive with it.
Fascinating view.
I have no interest in trying to be everything to everybody.
You criticizing my written communication style is as much about you as you think its about me. From a simple psychological perspective, they would all tell me to ignore your position. Why, because its not affecting my life. I'm doing fine. I wrote the details on my CV as evidence of that.
As I had said before, you can choose to be and communicate anyway you want. The challenge of us communicating and your need to somehow believe your position on my communication style is an absolute says allot about how you view the world. It does not say anything about me.
If you are not something yourself but speak of their behalf you are an advocate. An English language thing.
I don't speak on their behalf. I speak on what I believe. There are trans-activists who don't agree with my position including the HRC. There are trans people who largely agree with my thoughts.
From an action point of view I have made the following suggestion to trans-activists. If you really want to help the larger trans community, make peace with JK Rowling. They generally don't like me suggested that to them.
With that, am I a trans-advocate or not?
That's good advice for them, I agree. I asked you to tell me if it was wrong. So you don't consider yourself to be a trans advocate. Thanks for the clarification.