I think this may be an example of an effect which is more wide ranging - when a situation way outside our normal life presents itself unexpectedly, and we don't know how to handle it in the moment. Only later do we come up with ideas (if we reflect), so that we might handle it better another time; it's much harder to "think on one's fee…
I think this may be an example of an effect which is more wide ranging - when a situation way outside our normal life presents itself unexpectedly, and we don't know how to handle it in the moment. Only later do we come up with ideas (if we reflect), so that we might handle it better another time; it's much harder to "think on one's feet" without preparation. We think of comebacks, or that we should have called a manager, or given somebody the money they lost or whatever. In this case, that one should have insisted on waiting until the older gentleman was served.
I haven't encounters such apparent racism, but have unexpectedly come across a dispute between a couple which felt like it might have gotten violent, and I was unsure what to do. It was not in my playbook, not something I had thought out. Yeah, one can replay that in one's mind for a while, especially if it turns out badly (in my case it did not - but I didn't know).
If we never encounter a similar situation again, that's a good thing. I'm glad that Nin didn't have to report that he had since encountered similar situations frequently and was handling them better. It was rare enough in his life to date, that he has not needed to develop reflexes.
I think this may be an example of an effect which is more wide ranging - when a situation way outside our normal life presents itself unexpectedly, and we don't know how to handle it in the moment. Only later do we come up with ideas (if we reflect), so that we might handle it better another time; it's much harder to "think on one's feet" without preparation. We think of comebacks, or that we should have called a manager, or given somebody the money they lost or whatever. In this case, that one should have insisted on waiting until the older gentleman was served.
I haven't encounters such apparent racism, but have unexpectedly come across a dispute between a couple which felt like it might have gotten violent, and I was unsure what to do. It was not in my playbook, not something I had thought out. Yeah, one can replay that in one's mind for a while, especially if it turns out badly (in my case it did not - but I didn't know).
If we never encounter a similar situation again, that's a good thing. I'm glad that Nin didn't have to report that he had since encountered similar situations frequently and was handling them better. It was rare enough in his life to date, that he has not needed to develop reflexes.