Personally I sort of believe in Vonnegut's Monkey House, where suicide can be achieved by choice but only after serious counseling and I don't mean a single 30-minute perfunctory interview. I had a friend in Seattle, a close friend, black and gay, one of my few sex partners I saw socially. He liked to go to the clandestine cruising groun…
Personally I sort of believe in Vonnegut's Monkey House, where suicide can be achieved by choice but only after serious counseling and I don't mean a single 30-minute perfunctory interview.
I had a friend in Seattle, a close friend, black and gay, one of my few sex partners I saw socially. He liked to go to the clandestine cruising ground and give blowjobs. All the time. This was mostly while I was away for four years, when I returned to Seattle I learned he had died a month before.
I remain angry to this day that nobody sat down with him and said, "Michael you really need to stop this, a lot of those men have HIV and you are eventually going to get it and die."
I'll risk friendships telling people they need to quit smoking or quit drinking so much. I expect people to do the same for me if I'm out of line, though I have none of the common vices.
And, yes, in the end people make their own choices but I think we tend to shrug off their bad choices as "not my problem" way too readily.
"And, yes, in the end people make their own choices but I think we tend to shrug off their bad choices as "not my problem" way too readily."
Yep, sadly I think you're dead right about this. We also see it reflected in the culture of people whipping out their phones and recording instead of helping or even calling for help when somebody is being beaten up or some other preventable wrong is happening right in from of them.
If others are already calling 911 I support videos of what's going on. It can hold perps accountable and make it easier for the cops to nab him or her, and provide documentary evidence in court that s/he did do the crime.
Personally I sort of believe in Vonnegut's Monkey House, where suicide can be achieved by choice but only after serious counseling and I don't mean a single 30-minute perfunctory interview.
I had a friend in Seattle, a close friend, black and gay, one of my few sex partners I saw socially. He liked to go to the clandestine cruising ground and give blowjobs. All the time. This was mostly while I was away for four years, when I returned to Seattle I learned he had died a month before.
I remain angry to this day that nobody sat down with him and said, "Michael you really need to stop this, a lot of those men have HIV and you are eventually going to get it and die."
I'll risk friendships telling people they need to quit smoking or quit drinking so much. I expect people to do the same for me if I'm out of line, though I have none of the common vices.
And, yes, in the end people make their own choices but I think we tend to shrug off their bad choices as "not my problem" way too readily.
"And, yes, in the end people make their own choices but I think we tend to shrug off their bad choices as "not my problem" way too readily."
Yep, sadly I think you're dead right about this. We also see it reflected in the culture of people whipping out their phones and recording instead of helping or even calling for help when somebody is being beaten up or some other preventable wrong is happening right in from of them.
If others are already calling 911 I support videos of what's going on. It can hold perps accountable and make it easier for the cops to nab him or her, and provide documentary evidence in court that s/he did do the crime.