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Chris Fox's avatar

I could have been more precise in my choice of words, and called it cheating. I've been promiscuous; I had my adolescence at age 42 instead of my late teens and I bedded as many men as I could manage. I got it out of my system and quit but while I was in it I was perfectly aware I was being idiotic.

But yes I meant cheating. I've known enough people intimately to have figured out that the wantonly promiscuous aren't just excessively horny but have self-esteem issues, most recognizably in aging men who date much younger to convince themselves they "still got it."

One of the many reasons I got away from the gay community was its deeply-held notion that promiscuity was our birthright, our gift to the straight world (straight world: "no thanks"). Even aside from the risk of HIV there is clearly something unhealthy about it.

And one of the few advantages of being older is being so much less horny. I used to leave work for sex twice a day.

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Steve QJ's avatar

"But yes I meant cheating. I've known enough people intimately to have figured out that the wantonly promiscuous aren't just excessively horny but have self-esteem issues"

Yeah, this is doubtless true. At least in some cases. Then again, lots of behaviour can be traced back to self-esteem issues. I just don't think it's a moral issue.

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Chris Fox's avatar

I remember one from years ago, a fat man in his late 50s and a little rich, dating a 24yo attractive woman with whom he planned to murder his wife and marry the girl.

It was a belly laugh that this overweight and aging man actually believed this girl wanted him for his dick.

I dunno about moral issue but it sure was pathetic.

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