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"As it turns out, much of the validation I got from the gay community was very self serving on the part of those who were validating me"

Of course. I think this is almost always the case. Because people who truly care about you accept you. They don't "validate" you. Finding validation is our job, not the responsibility of everyone who won't use our pronouns. As you say, you no longer need validation because, I presume, you're more happy in who you are.

As for trans women, their identity is trans woman, no? That is acceptance. As womanhood is already a thing, and as womanhood categorically does not include male human beings, yes, the claim "trans women are women" is an attempt to appropriate womanhood. To change it from what is, to something more convenient to people who want it.

Yes, gender dysphoria is a real issue. I understand that. But gender dysphoria doesn't change your biology. Regardless of women's spaces, regardless of hormones and surgeries, regardless of any of the other stupidity that has sprung up in this culture war, trans women are trans women. To deny this is a fundamental failure of acceptance.

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