"I had done no such thing; the intention was to make me sputter that "I didn't admit any such thing!!""
Yes, agreed. This is actually a fairly good example of what I'm talking about. Here's the conversation to refresh your memory (https://steveqj.substack.com/p/your-comments-are-fairly-shocking/comment/8101625).
Here we have a conversation where you've made totally unfounded assumptions about Marla because she mentions Antifa, she responds to a great deal of sarcasm from you with politeness. You then claim Antifa simply don't exist (a claim I'm still not sure how you stand behind. I can only imagine how you'd react to somebody who claimed QAnon don't exist), then Jason offers you some (admittedly pretty lukewarm) evidence, you respond with more sarcasm, and then finally, he responds with some in return.
This is the knock on effect I'm talking about. One bit of rudeness or sarcasm makes the next bit more likely, and so on. Especially when talking to strangers on the nameless, faceless internet. I'm not even saying he wasn't trolling. And yes, your response was mild enough in the grand scheme of things.
I'm saying you seem to be overlooking your significant part in the conversation reaching that point. And in making further conversation, where you might have at least partially come to an understanding, all but impossible. If Marla had responded to you with sarcasm or trolling, I wouldn't have blamed her either.
As I said earlier, the way you speak to people impacts the way they speak to you. Your willingness to hear them out or to ask productive questions impacts their willingness to do the same in return. This impact can be positive or negative. I'm aiming for it to be consistently positive from everybody here.
"I had done no such thing; the intention was to make me sputter that "I didn't admit any such thing!!""
Yes, agreed. This is actually a fairly good example of what I'm talking about. Here's the conversation to refresh your memory (https://steveqj.substack.com/p/your-comments-are-fairly-shocking/comment/8101625).
Here we have a conversation where you've made totally unfounded assumptions about Marla because she mentions Antifa, she responds to a great deal of sarcasm from you with politeness. You then claim Antifa simply don't exist (a claim I'm still not sure how you stand behind. I can only imagine how you'd react to somebody who claimed QAnon don't exist), then Jason offers you some (admittedly pretty lukewarm) evidence, you respond with more sarcasm, and then finally, he responds with some in return.
This is the knock on effect I'm talking about. One bit of rudeness or sarcasm makes the next bit more likely, and so on. Especially when talking to strangers on the nameless, faceless internet. I'm not even saying he wasn't trolling. And yes, your response was mild enough in the grand scheme of things.
I'm saying you seem to be overlooking your significant part in the conversation reaching that point. And in making further conversation, where you might have at least partially come to an understanding, all but impossible. If Marla had responded to you with sarcasm or trolling, I wouldn't have blamed her either.
As I said earlier, the way you speak to people impacts the way they speak to you. Your willingness to hear them out or to ask productive questions impacts their willingness to do the same in return. This impact can be positive or negative. I'm aiming for it to be consistently positive from everybody here.