"You are what you are. You can't "identify" your way out of that."
>>> I thought that was put pretty funny.
"But you can choose your behaviour. I think Laurel and I would agree..."
>>> Yup, and I think You both *would* agree.
"We'd all be happier without those pressures and expectations."
>>> Weeeel, I find that's a tough one. I was just raised with pressures and expectations. Just generally to "do good." Treating people. Grades. Jobs. Marriage. Yeah, there's been times when that's been a bit overly uncomfortable. To minimize it: Sometimes *absolutely crushed* by the pressures and expectations. But it also made me resilient in times when I needed to be, so there is that.
"I was just raised with pressures and expectations. Just generally to "do good." Treating people. Grades. Jobs. Marriage."
Sure, but pretty much everybody deals with these pressures. These aren't gendered pressures in 2022. I'm not saying that we should live without *any kind* of pressure, that's impossible. And as you say, it builds strength and resilience.
But some pressures, particularly those placed on women, actually make it harder to build that strength and resiilience, because it makes it harder to fully explore and express your autonomy.
"You are what you are. You can't "identify" your way out of that."
>>> I thought that was put pretty funny.
"But you can choose your behaviour. I think Laurel and I would agree..."
>>> Yup, and I think You both *would* agree.
"We'd all be happier without those pressures and expectations."
>>> Weeeel, I find that's a tough one. I was just raised with pressures and expectations. Just generally to "do good." Treating people. Grades. Jobs. Marriage. Yeah, there's been times when that's been a bit overly uncomfortable. To minimize it: Sometimes *absolutely crushed* by the pressures and expectations. But it also made me resilient in times when I needed to be, so there is that.
"I was just raised with pressures and expectations. Just generally to "do good." Treating people. Grades. Jobs. Marriage."
Sure, but pretty much everybody deals with these pressures. These aren't gendered pressures in 2022. I'm not saying that we should live without *any kind* of pressure, that's impossible. And as you say, it builds strength and resilience.
But some pressures, particularly those placed on women, actually make it harder to build that strength and resiilience, because it makes it harder to fully explore and express your autonomy.
It depends on how You're raised, AFAIK, a lot more than what Your gender is.