"I go for hours at a time, even days, without reminding myself that I'm male"
Haha, right?! One notable feature of trans and non-binary people is the sheer amount of headspace they devote to whether they're being perceived in the "right" way. It's actually kind of sad to watch. I see kids on YouTube consumed by whether they have enough fa…
"I go for hours at a time, even days, without reminding myself that I'm male"
Haha, right?! One notable feature of trans and non-binary people is the sheer amount of headspace they devote to whether they're being perceived in the "right" way. It's actually kind of sad to watch. I see kids on YouTube consumed by whether they have enough facial hair or whether their behaviour "masculine" enough. Spending hours on their makeup and obsessing about their weight or their breasts.
In any other circumstances, we'd have no problem recognising this insecure, unhealthy behaviour for what it is. But when it's a trans person, we're supposed to believe all that insecurity is #stunningandbrave.
Have to disagree with you about goths and hippies turning conversations to being goths and hippies though. I consistently find people who build themselves around an "identity" to be pretty insufferable. Mainly because they end up building these echo chambers around themselves because everybody they interact with shares that "identity." I've never known a goth whose friends weren't 95% goths, for example.
Well I was a late hippie but I remember talking about politics and music all the time and never talking about how hippie I was. Goth and punk came after I had tuned out of youth movement and I was listening to classical and ambient. I know a lot of ex-punk and ex-goths and they seem to have come out intact. I was psychedelia, which was about finding meaning (we read books); punk was the opposite, "life is stupid." I could not be part of it and the music didn't do anything for me.
Yeah people like to hang out with their self-affirming enclaves and one reason I feel to be such an ill fit in this world is that I never liked that. Gay culture got old immediately, hippie was already on its way out by the time I adopted it and though I kept the long hair a few years the culture was gone. When I came out of the marijuana haze the kids were all going for MBAs.
But I have never seen one as compulsively conformist as "trans." It's like you have to check in every day to keep up with what words and phrases to use and which are now anathema. And they're wearing out "transphobic" really fast.
"One notable feature of trans and non-binary people is the sheer amount of headspace they devote to whether they're being perceived in the 'right' way. It's actually kind of sad to watch."
>>> I hadn't thought about it in this way. *Everybody* seeks approval about themselves, right? But to make a whole career outta it? Yeah, that really *is* pretty sad.
>>> And I can see what You mean about people forming group identities like that. I might-a been like that myself, but that I was a something of a misfit and never happened on one.
"I go for hours at a time, even days, without reminding myself that I'm male"
Haha, right?! One notable feature of trans and non-binary people is the sheer amount of headspace they devote to whether they're being perceived in the "right" way. It's actually kind of sad to watch. I see kids on YouTube consumed by whether they have enough facial hair or whether their behaviour "masculine" enough. Spending hours on their makeup and obsessing about their weight or their breasts.
In any other circumstances, we'd have no problem recognising this insecure, unhealthy behaviour for what it is. But when it's a trans person, we're supposed to believe all that insecurity is #stunningandbrave.
Have to disagree with you about goths and hippies turning conversations to being goths and hippies though. I consistently find people who build themselves around an "identity" to be pretty insufferable. Mainly because they end up building these echo chambers around themselves because everybody they interact with shares that "identity." I've never known a goth whose friends weren't 95% goths, for example.
Well I was a late hippie but I remember talking about politics and music all the time and never talking about how hippie I was. Goth and punk came after I had tuned out of youth movement and I was listening to classical and ambient. I know a lot of ex-punk and ex-goths and they seem to have come out intact. I was psychedelia, which was about finding meaning (we read books); punk was the opposite, "life is stupid." I could not be part of it and the music didn't do anything for me.
This, on the other hand, seems to be the quintessential "trans": https://medium.com/prismnpen/trans-reality-this-will-piss-you-off-5e45cad585ad
Can you believe Medium publishes stuff like that?
Yeah people like to hang out with their self-affirming enclaves and one reason I feel to be such an ill fit in this world is that I never liked that. Gay culture got old immediately, hippie was already on its way out by the time I adopted it and though I kept the long hair a few years the culture was gone. When I came out of the marijuana haze the kids were all going for MBAs.
But I have never seen one as compulsively conformist as "trans." It's like you have to check in every day to keep up with what words and phrases to use and which are now anathema. And they're wearing out "transphobic" really fast.
"One notable feature of trans and non-binary people is the sheer amount of headspace they devote to whether they're being perceived in the 'right' way. It's actually kind of sad to watch."
>>> I hadn't thought about it in this way. *Everybody* seeks approval about themselves, right? But to make a whole career outta it? Yeah, that really *is* pretty sad.
>>> And I can see what You mean about people forming group identities like that. I might-a been like that myself, but that I was a something of a misfit and never happened on one.