This was so distressing to read! In a way, Feffy is absolutely right, there is no complete distinction between sex and gender, and he/she knows it. We are women because we are female; our gender is, indeed, a social construct, but this construct is based on real functions that our bodies have: gestating, menstruating, lactating, being in…
This was so distressing to read! In a way, Feffy is absolutely right, there is no complete distinction between sex and gender, and he/she knows it. We are women because we are female; our gender is, indeed, a social construct, but this construct is based on real functions that our bodies have: gestating, menstruating, lactating, being in general shorter, slower, and weaker than a male's body, etc. The superficial stuff, like "presenting" (wearing dresses and makeup, having long hair, loving "girly" things) is the part that hurts us the most, and, alas, it is also the part adopted by transwomen to "prove" they are ... us.
"The superficial stuff, like "presenting" (wearing dresses and makeup, having long hair, loving "girly" things) is the part that hurts us the most, and, alas, it is also the part adopted by transwomen to "prove" they are ... us."
So true. I think (though I suspect that many trans people would disagree or at least never admit it), that what trans women are saying when they say they are women is "we are not like men." Which, according to the stereotypical image of what a man *is*, is certainly true. I just think it's much more productive (and feasible) to challenge the stereotype of what a man is than to dismantle the definition of what a woman is.
This was so distressing to read! In a way, Feffy is absolutely right, there is no complete distinction between sex and gender, and he/she knows it. We are women because we are female; our gender is, indeed, a social construct, but this construct is based on real functions that our bodies have: gestating, menstruating, lactating, being in general shorter, slower, and weaker than a male's body, etc. The superficial stuff, like "presenting" (wearing dresses and makeup, having long hair, loving "girly" things) is the part that hurts us the most, and, alas, it is also the part adopted by transwomen to "prove" they are ... us.
"The superficial stuff, like "presenting" (wearing dresses and makeup, having long hair, loving "girly" things) is the part that hurts us the most, and, alas, it is also the part adopted by transwomen to "prove" they are ... us."
So true. I think (though I suspect that many trans people would disagree or at least never admit it), that what trans women are saying when they say they are women is "we are not like men." Which, according to the stereotypical image of what a man *is*, is certainly true. I just think it's much more productive (and feasible) to challenge the stereotype of what a man is than to dismantle the definition of what a woman is.