"But I'm a bit perplexed. Where are you seeing Feffie's delusion?"
(I just re-read this reply and realised that I unintentionally used "she" throughout the first paragraph. I'm going to leave it as is, even though I mean no disrespect, because it perfectly illustrates my point.
The cognitive load required for me to maintain this illusion …
"But I'm a bit perplexed. Where are you seeing Feffie's delusion?"
(I just re-read this reply and realised that I unintentionally used "she" throughout the first paragraph. I'm going to leave it as is, even though I mean no disrespect, because it perfectly illustrates my point.
The cognitive load required for me to maintain this illusion slips when I let my guard down, because I'm being polite, not truthful. Referring to the reality of Feffy's female body and then typing "he" is so unnatural that I have to concentrate to keep it up. More to the point, it makes the meaning of the paragraph almost incomprehensible which I guess is why I subconsciously switched.)
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I've got into this in a little more detail in my reply to Curious Cat, but yeah, I see Feffy's delusion as the belief that she's a man when a man is an adult human male. That she believes her normal, healthy female body is a "developmental" issue .
Feffy's choice to transition doesn't factor into my thinking at all. It doesn’t make him delusional any more than some people's decision to get breast implants or BBLs or nose jobs makes them delusional. If an adult chooses to get cosmetic surgery for any reason, that's completely up to them (though as I also mention to Curious Cat, it's hard not to see some choices as indicative of mental health issues).
The distress caused by gender dysphoria is, of course, real. I fully support Feffy's right to transition and truly hope that his mental health continues to improve. The fact that he's still suicidal post transition is a serious cause for concern, of course, but I presume things were even worse before.
But given that all the affirmation he's received hasn't made him happy, I can't help but wonder whether we could be doing better for people experiencing this distress.
That is a great point re. still feeling suicidal. Makes me rethink my comment that he is actually healthier & happier. Hopefully that will come. Also, and at the risk of sounding facile, I hope that part of being healthier is perhaps less time online. I think Twitter is not a good place for people who are emotionally or mentally fragile.
"But I'm a bit perplexed. Where are you seeing Feffie's delusion?"
(I just re-read this reply and realised that I unintentionally used "she" throughout the first paragraph. I'm going to leave it as is, even though I mean no disrespect, because it perfectly illustrates my point.
The cognitive load required for me to maintain this illusion slips when I let my guard down, because I'm being polite, not truthful. Referring to the reality of Feffy's female body and then typing "he" is so unnatural that I have to concentrate to keep it up. More to the point, it makes the meaning of the paragraph almost incomprehensible which I guess is why I subconsciously switched.)
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I've got into this in a little more detail in my reply to Curious Cat, but yeah, I see Feffy's delusion as the belief that she's a man when a man is an adult human male. That she believes her normal, healthy female body is a "developmental" issue .
Feffy's choice to transition doesn't factor into my thinking at all. It doesn’t make him delusional any more than some people's decision to get breast implants or BBLs or nose jobs makes them delusional. If an adult chooses to get cosmetic surgery for any reason, that's completely up to them (though as I also mention to Curious Cat, it's hard not to see some choices as indicative of mental health issues).
The distress caused by gender dysphoria is, of course, real. I fully support Feffy's right to transition and truly hope that his mental health continues to improve. The fact that he's still suicidal post transition is a serious cause for concern, of course, but I presume things were even worse before.
But given that all the affirmation he's received hasn't made him happy, I can't help but wonder whether we could be doing better for people experiencing this distress.
That is a great point re. still feeling suicidal. Makes me rethink my comment that he is actually healthier & happier. Hopefully that will come. Also, and at the risk of sounding facile, I hope that part of being healthier is perhaps less time online. I think Twitter is not a good place for people who are emotionally or mentally fragile.
"Also, and at the risk of sounding facile, I hope that part of being healthier is perhaps less time online."
God no. It doesn't sound facile. I think you're 100% correct.