Having been suicidal at times, in my experience the best and *easiest* Way around that is to accept reality as it is. The biggest part-a that is to accept Yourself as You are, as opposed to how You wish You were. Now, there's a lotta people out there, most people, who will tell You they like themselves just fine. That's not what I'm "…
Having been suicidal at times, in my experience the best and *easiest* Way around that is to accept reality as it is. The biggest part-a that is to accept Yourself as You are, as opposed to how You wish You were. Now, there's a lotta people out there, most people, who will tell You they like themselves just fine. That's not what I'm "talking" about at *all.*
Therepy? You change Yourself or You don't. Nobody can do it *for* You. Not "saying" it can't help. Sometimes does, sometimes doesn't. Depends on both You and the particular therapist.
IMHO, this also applies to the trans issues. The number of people who call themselves trans [Edit: is very small], and the number of people who are genetically predisposed to rejecting [Edit:
replace "the" with "their"] biological gender is so small that if You said zero, You wouldn't be far off. Some are psychologically damaged and can't survive in the biological gender they have. Again, vanishingly slim.
The number of people who are trans because it's so common today? Nobody knows. But when pre-K are being told to question their biological gender? That it can be anything they want it to be? It's a lousy term, but this is what it means to call teachers and all-a them "groomers."
As a general rule of thumb, people along the spectrum of ability to SEE reality aren't gonna be materially changed by becoming trans. I guess I should say, IMHO.
TY, Steve. That about the first woman-I-forget-her-name [Edit: Cecelia] was fascinating.
"Having been suicidal at times, in my experience the best and *easiest* Way around that is to accept reality as it is"
I'm lucky enough to have never truly felt suicidal, but this makes intuitive sense to me too.
I though the part where Feffy mentioned that he doesn't tell anybody he's trans in real life was interesting. Having to hide something so significant about yourself because you don't want to face it, must be difficult. It's hard to believe that doesn't have a significant negative effect on your mental health.
Reality can be painful and unpleasant sometimes, for all of us, but fighting it or denying it seems like it'll always lead to more problems than it solves.
Ever read "Silence of the Lambs?" The author did his homework; the serial killer Buffalo Bill hated himself and wanted to change; his murder spree was to create a Woman Suit.
He had applied for the surgery and been turned down; IINM this was one of the clues that led to his capture.
I think the rise in suicide and the rise of the trans fad can be laid at the feet of our increasingly frustrating and unfulfilling lives (entertainment is distraction, not fulfillment), creating cadres of people who want to be someone else.
Same as the people who relocate and change their names ... they bring themselves to the new life, which ends up being as miserable as the old life.
SEXUAL GENDER: *Can* be variable, but generally goes towards Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-.
There are GENDER ROLES: Along a spectrum. *Every* person has male/female (or female/male, if You prefer) in them. Yin and Yang. Too close to 100% of either gender can be pretty toxic to the opposite.
GENDER IDENTITY: Whatever a person says.
Today, I think there's a mass neurosis of *confusion* between these latter two. The fad seems to be to change LG to trans, for some reason i don't [Edit: fully] understand.
Having been suicidal at times, in my experience the best and *easiest* Way around that is to accept reality as it is. The biggest part-a that is to accept Yourself as You are, as opposed to how You wish You were. Now, there's a lotta people out there, most people, who will tell You they like themselves just fine. That's not what I'm "talking" about at *all.*
Therepy? You change Yourself or You don't. Nobody can do it *for* You. Not "saying" it can't help. Sometimes does, sometimes doesn't. Depends on both You and the particular therapist.
IMHO, this also applies to the trans issues. The number of people who call themselves trans [Edit: is very small], and the number of people who are genetically predisposed to rejecting [Edit:
replace "the" with "their"] biological gender is so small that if You said zero, You wouldn't be far off. Some are psychologically damaged and can't survive in the biological gender they have. Again, vanishingly slim.
The number of people who are trans because it's so common today? Nobody knows. But when pre-K are being told to question their biological gender? That it can be anything they want it to be? It's a lousy term, but this is what it means to call teachers and all-a them "groomers."
As a general rule of thumb, people along the spectrum of ability to SEE reality aren't gonna be materially changed by becoming trans. I guess I should say, IMHO.
TY, Steve. That about the first woman-I-forget-her-name [Edit: Cecelia] was fascinating.
"Having been suicidal at times, in my experience the best and *easiest* Way around that is to accept reality as it is"
I'm lucky enough to have never truly felt suicidal, but this makes intuitive sense to me too.
I though the part where Feffy mentioned that he doesn't tell anybody he's trans in real life was interesting. Having to hide something so significant about yourself because you don't want to face it, must be difficult. It's hard to believe that doesn't have a significant negative effect on your mental health.
Reality can be painful and unpleasant sometimes, for all of us, but fighting it or denying it seems like it'll always lead to more problems than it solves.
Ever read "Silence of the Lambs?" The author did his homework; the serial killer Buffalo Bill hated himself and wanted to change; his murder spree was to create a Woman Suit.
He had applied for the surgery and been turned down; IINM this was one of the clues that led to his capture.
I think the rise in suicide and the rise of the trans fad can be laid at the feet of our increasingly frustrating and unfulfilling lives (entertainment is distraction, not fulfillment), creating cadres of people who want to be someone else.
Same as the people who relocate and change their names ... they bring themselves to the new life, which ends up being as miserable as the old life.
To summarize the above:
There's biological GENDER: Two-a them.
SEXUAL GENDER: *Can* be variable, but generally goes towards Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-.
There are GENDER ROLES: Along a spectrum. *Every* person has male/female (or female/male, if You prefer) in them. Yin and Yang. Too close to 100% of either gender can be pretty toxic to the opposite.
GENDER IDENTITY: Whatever a person says.
Today, I think there's a mass neurosis of *confusion* between these latter two. The fad seems to be to change LG to trans, for some reason i don't [Edit: fully] understand.