Yeah, I hear you. I'm definitely not saying there's no such thing as a fetishist. But this is a version of the "if you don't sleep with tarn people you're a transphobe'" argument, right?
Are you a penis fetishist because you sleep with "cis" men but not trans men? Or are the vast majority of women "height" fetishists because they aren't a…
Yeah, I hear you. I'm definitely not saying there's no such thing as a fetishist. But this is a version of the "if you don't sleep with tarn people you're a transphobe'" argument, right?
Are you a penis fetishist because you sleep with "cis" men but not trans men? Or are the vast majority of women "height" fetishists because they aren't attracted to shorter men?
But more to the point, a man who is attracted to Asian women isn't necessarily *only* attracted to Asian women. Nobody is claiming as far as I'm aware that Long was only attracted to Asian women. He just went to an Asian massage parlour.
I get what you're saying. I think my ex fetishized blonde women because the reason why we split up was over his wanting to move to southern California, and I said I didn't want to move to a fucked state in a fucked country. He was definitely not into women of other races although he'd gone out with a few; blondes came up over and over again in his conversation, and we split up over California. Furthermore, it came out early that he watched a LOT of porn and he had two very strong desires for a certain look and a certain sexual practice, to the exclusion of everything else. He would do other stuff, but he really had a big thing for this one practice which wasn't offensive or harmful to me, but it definitely didn't do anything for me. I call them fetishes because of how much they came up in conversation when we talked about sex - blondes, this particular look and this particular practice. I wondered if he actually knew what he really liked in bed because it struck me (I could be wrong about this) that he everything he thought he liked he learned from porn. It's why I've gotten so interested in the past year in porn and its effect on men. Because I had no idea how common it is, and now I understand why men ask more often "Do you do anal?" That's now a big red flag for me that he likely watches a lot of porn, and I wonder if he's capable of emotional connection with a woman. My answer is now, "No, I don't do any of that porny shit." And I promptly lose interest.
Yeah, I'm sticking to calling him a fetishist.
BTW, he got REAL defensive in the earlierst convo we had about porn - BEFORE I knew he watched it - when I brought up a book I'd read that talked about how many women and girls are sex trafficked on YouPorn, PornHub, and other popular sites. Which led me down another rabbit hole - the resistance of men to so-called 'progressive' and 'feminist' women when it threatens male sexual pleasure. Denial really *is* a river in Egypt for them.
Yeah, I hear you. I'm definitely not saying there's no such thing as a fetishist. But this is a version of the "if you don't sleep with tarn people you're a transphobe'" argument, right?
Are you a penis fetishist because you sleep with "cis" men but not trans men? Or are the vast majority of women "height" fetishists because they aren't attracted to shorter men?
But more to the point, a man who is attracted to Asian women isn't necessarily *only* attracted to Asian women. Nobody is claiming as far as I'm aware that Long was only attracted to Asian women. He just went to an Asian massage parlour.
I get what you're saying. I think my ex fetishized blonde women because the reason why we split up was over his wanting to move to southern California, and I said I didn't want to move to a fucked state in a fucked country. He was definitely not into women of other races although he'd gone out with a few; blondes came up over and over again in his conversation, and we split up over California. Furthermore, it came out early that he watched a LOT of porn and he had two very strong desires for a certain look and a certain sexual practice, to the exclusion of everything else. He would do other stuff, but he really had a big thing for this one practice which wasn't offensive or harmful to me, but it definitely didn't do anything for me. I call them fetishes because of how much they came up in conversation when we talked about sex - blondes, this particular look and this particular practice. I wondered if he actually knew what he really liked in bed because it struck me (I could be wrong about this) that he everything he thought he liked he learned from porn. It's why I've gotten so interested in the past year in porn and its effect on men. Because I had no idea how common it is, and now I understand why men ask more often "Do you do anal?" That's now a big red flag for me that he likely watches a lot of porn, and I wonder if he's capable of emotional connection with a woman. My answer is now, "No, I don't do any of that porny shit." And I promptly lose interest.
Yeah, I'm sticking to calling him a fetishist.
BTW, he got REAL defensive in the earlierst convo we had about porn - BEFORE I knew he watched it - when I brought up a book I'd read that talked about how many women and girls are sex trafficked on YouPorn, PornHub, and other popular sites. Which led me down another rabbit hole - the resistance of men to so-called 'progressive' and 'feminist' women when it threatens male sexual pleasure. Denial really *is* a river in Egypt for them.