One of my father's Navy friends was married to a Japanese woman. Their sons were about my age and we hung around a lot.
That American men preferred Asian wives for their personalities was one of those presumptions that nobody questioned; I never heard "subservient" but American women were regarded as too demanding, too (what we would cal…
One of my father's Navy friends was married to a Japanese woman. Their sons were about my age and we hung around a lot.
That American men preferred Asian wives for their personalities was one of those presumptions that nobody questioned; I never heard "subservient" but American women were regarded as too demanding, too (what we would call today) "high maintenance." It was not that Asian women were easier to boss around.
Over here (Vietnam) I get along fine with women of middle years but I don't like the girls, they are painfully superficial and fake (they *beam* at air because they're instructed to smile all the time), though there have been a few I regarded as friends.
That family my father knew ended up moving to Hawaii when the father retired, because they experienced too much bigotry in the USA.
I just engaged in comments on Medium pertaining to a man who moved to Europe because he had no interest in American women. Race was not even the issue. It had to do with men who perceive American women as wearing a chip on their shoulder that they don't want to deal with. While a monolithic view of a subset of women has issues, there is often "some" justification for generalities, averages being what they are.
My wife's father was a violent alcoholic. Before we married, she blew something I had accidentally done out of proportion. Looking back, it was a test. She was not about to marry a man prone to domestic violence and put herself in a situation that could have led to that (once) to see who I might be beyond my courtship self. She was also revealing who she could be to me. Eyes wide open, her understanding of human nature is orders of magnitude beyond my often-clumsy cluelessness. Who we are in the face of conflict with those we love is huge and probably a primary cause of the failure of relationships. Was that because she is Asian? I don't think so. That childhood circumstance is shared by people in all cultures, having nothing to do with race.
One of my father's Navy friends was married to a Japanese woman. Their sons were about my age and we hung around a lot.
That American men preferred Asian wives for their personalities was one of those presumptions that nobody questioned; I never heard "subservient" but American women were regarded as too demanding, too (what we would call today) "high maintenance." It was not that Asian women were easier to boss around.
Over here (Vietnam) I get along fine with women of middle years but I don't like the girls, they are painfully superficial and fake (they *beam* at air because they're instructed to smile all the time), though there have been a few I regarded as friends.
That family my father knew ended up moving to Hawaii when the father retired, because they experienced too much bigotry in the USA.
I just engaged in comments on Medium pertaining to a man who moved to Europe because he had no interest in American women. Race was not even the issue. It had to do with men who perceive American women as wearing a chip on their shoulder that they don't want to deal with. While a monolithic view of a subset of women has issues, there is often "some" justification for generalities, averages being what they are.
My wife's father was a violent alcoholic. Before we married, she blew something I had accidentally done out of proportion. Looking back, it was a test. She was not about to marry a man prone to domestic violence and put herself in a situation that could have led to that (once) to see who I might be beyond my courtship self. She was also revealing who she could be to me. Eyes wide open, her understanding of human nature is orders of magnitude beyond my often-clumsy cluelessness. Who we are in the face of conflict with those we love is huge and probably a primary cause of the failure of relationships. Was that because she is Asian? I don't think so. That childhood circumstance is shared by people in all cultures, having nothing to do with race.