While I agree that only bullies & people with a deep sense of their own inferiority use insults like the N word, or like "sugar tits" for women for that matter, it is still intended to hurt and for some people, it does. If those insults come from people with power - your boss, or a policeman for example - they're dangerous too.
While I agree that only bullies & people with a deep sense of their own inferiority use insults like the N word, or like "sugar tits" for women for that matter, it is still intended to hurt and for some people, it does. If those insults come from people with power - your boss, or a policeman for example - they're dangerous too.
For those of us who've got past the pain, it's a source of strength: now I'm in my late 60's, anyone needing to call me "sugar tits" is going to get nothing but a belly-laugh, or the on-line equivalent, and the best way I can help younger or more fragile women is by doing just that. Humour or mockery? Do I care?
Exactly this. I mean, you're right, these words are only used with the intent to hurt. But so what? What does it say about this person that they have the intent to hurt a stranger. Or that they'd use a racial slur to try to do so? Why on Earth am I letting myself be affected by their intentions?
We're not typically very good at turning the lens on ourselves by asking questions like these. But I think we'd all be a lot happier and more mentally healthy if we did so.
I had to Google "sugar tits." A make shift pacifier. And then it became an expression of contempt thru usage. People are horribly creative when it comes to being jerks with words.
While I agree that only bullies & people with a deep sense of their own inferiority use insults like the N word, or like "sugar tits" for women for that matter, it is still intended to hurt and for some people, it does. If those insults come from people with power - your boss, or a policeman for example - they're dangerous too.
For those of us who've got past the pain, it's a source of strength: now I'm in my late 60's, anyone needing to call me "sugar tits" is going to get nothing but a belly-laugh, or the on-line equivalent, and the best way I can help younger or more fragile women is by doing just that. Humour or mockery? Do I care?
"Humour or mockery? Do I care?"
Exactly this. I mean, you're right, these words are only used with the intent to hurt. But so what? What does it say about this person that they have the intent to hurt a stranger. Or that they'd use a racial slur to try to do so? Why on Earth am I letting myself be affected by their intentions?
We're not typically very good at turning the lens on ourselves by asking questions like these. But I think we'd all be a lot happier and more mentally healthy if we did so.
I had to Google "sugar tits." A make shift pacifier. And then it became an expression of contempt thru usage. People are horribly creative when it comes to being jerks with words.