I gave up on 'women only' safe spaces about ten years ago when I realized it was holding women back. I was in a Pagan 'feminist' group in which the women there struck me as the perma-victim types whose idea of 'fighting the Patriarchy' was slapping at its ankles when it walked past their little hidey-hole in the ground. I broached the id…
I gave up on 'women only' safe spaces about ten years ago when I realized it was holding women back. I was in a Pagan 'feminist' group in which the women there struck me as the perma-victim types whose idea of 'fighting the Patriarchy' was slapping at its ankles when it walked past their little hidey-hole in the ground. I broached the idea as a private test to see whether I should continue hanging out there, where I always seemed to be the odd one out arguing against victimhood, and their feeling was they needed their 'safe space'. And I left, because I don't need a 'safe space' from men (unless I'm taking a wiz or changing my clothes). I need to speak up, assert myself more, and stop caring so much what others think. I wonder how the battle is going for them. Have they defeated Da Patriarchy yet?
I gave up on 'women only' safe spaces about ten years ago when I realized it was holding women back. I was in a Pagan 'feminist' group in which the women there struck me as the perma-victim types whose idea of 'fighting the Patriarchy' was slapping at its ankles when it walked past their little hidey-hole in the ground. I broached the idea as a private test to see whether I should continue hanging out there, where I always seemed to be the odd one out arguing against victimhood, and their feeling was they needed their 'safe space'. And I left, because I don't need a 'safe space' from men (unless I'm taking a wiz or changing my clothes). I need to speak up, assert myself more, and stop caring so much what others think. I wonder how the battle is going for them. Have they defeated Da Patriarchy yet?