"Oh, it's not true you can't dislike someone on sight. Plenty of women have had that feeling, someone you see whom you've never seen before and immediately...you just don't like him."
Oh sure, everybody's had that feeling. The point I'm making is, that feeling isn't real.
I guess we should differentiate between a fear reaction, where som…
"Oh, it's not true you can't dislike someone on sight. Plenty of women have had that feeling, someone you see whom you've never seen before and immediately...you just don't like him."
Oh sure, everybody's had that feeling. The point I'm making is, that feeling isn't real.
I guess we should differentiate between a fear reaction, where somebody strikes you as dangerous, and a "dislike" reaction where you just dislike somebody for no apparent reason.
The fear reaction is often not real either, but it's based on long-honed instincts that have kept us safe for thousands of years. We can get it about a doorway, or a path or a strange sound. It can be wrong,I'd argue that it often *is* wrong, but even if it keeps us safe even 20% of the time, it's useful.
But the "dislike" reaction is different. It's no longer about safety but, as you say, prejudice. One could argue that it's the exact same reaction that makes people think, "I don't trust/like you because you're black."
As much as we might believe we can, we can't read people's minds. We can't tell much of anything about their beliefs or character just by looking at them. We make a bunch of assumptions, remember the times when we were right, and instantly forget the vastly greater number of times we were wrong.
"Oh, it's not true you can't dislike someone on sight. Plenty of women have had that feeling, someone you see whom you've never seen before and immediately...you just don't like him."
Oh sure, everybody's had that feeling. The point I'm making is, that feeling isn't real.
I guess we should differentiate between a fear reaction, where somebody strikes you as dangerous, and a "dislike" reaction where you just dislike somebody for no apparent reason.
The fear reaction is often not real either, but it's based on long-honed instincts that have kept us safe for thousands of years. We can get it about a doorway, or a path or a strange sound. It can be wrong,I'd argue that it often *is* wrong, but even if it keeps us safe even 20% of the time, it's useful.
But the "dislike" reaction is different. It's no longer about safety but, as you say, prejudice. One could argue that it's the exact same reaction that makes people think, "I don't trust/like you because you're black."
As much as we might believe we can, we can't read people's minds. We can't tell much of anything about their beliefs or character just by looking at them. We make a bunch of assumptions, remember the times when we were right, and instantly forget the vastly greater number of times we were wrong.