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That's what I was implying about "harm."

It's hard, but people control their own *reactions* to what happens to them. Which is largely a case of controlling one's emotions, right?

And, yeah. I'd simply rather be a paid blogger. Doesn't work like that.

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"It's hard, but people control their own *reactions* to what happens to them. Which is largely a case of controlling one's emotions, right?"

I'd rather live in a world without racism. But I don't, so I manage my reactions when I experience it. Both of these are true at the same time. But despite my ability to manage my emotions, I still wish racism didn't exist.

T wasn't saying that she expected society to magically change. Just a hypothetical, "I wish I don't have to deal with this issue."

Being a paid blogger is actually a completely different thing. All you need to do is develop the skills and empathy required to do it. That's very different from having a body that subjects you to certain treatment.

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That was a poor example on my part. I'll give another if needed.

Yeah, I wish sexism didn't exist. I don't practice it myself raised with two sisters during the Second Wave. But I prefer to deal with reality rather than fantasy. You do too. I would suggest T would be better off if she took Your approach, and the approach I suggested.

But that would mean taking responsibility for her reactions. IMO, most people would prefer to do anything *but,* right?

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