I love this. I was able to reestablish my self-respect when I drew a bright line against seeking approval from people who didn't bother to try to know or understand me. This works for anyone - family, community, whomever. You can't control what other people do. You CAN control how you react to what they do. You always have a choice in th…
I love this. I was able to reestablish my self-respect when I drew a bright line against seeking approval from people who didn't bother to try to know or understand me. This works for anyone - family, community, whomever. You can't control what other people do. You CAN control how you react to what they do. You always have a choice in that sense - even when you are triggered you have choices. One of the ways out of PTSD is to realize that you have choices even in the midst of a triggering episode. Practice choosing to build emotional resilience.
"One of the ways out of PTSD is to realize that you have choices even in the midst of a triggering episode. Practice choosing to build emotional resilience."
Absolutely spot on. I think this is related to the "injustice" Julia talks about. It sucks that when you're dealing with a genuine emotional trigger, maybe from something truly horrible, you also need to find a way to talk yourself through it rationally instead of blaming the world for "triggering" you. I see how this feels unfair. But as I said to Julia, there's no other way.
So many of the problems in the world today are caused by the belief that the world should change to suit us instead of that we need to change so we can deal with the world. It's crazy the lengths people will go to to avoid doing that work on themselves.
TY again. This sums up my view of Western society these days:
"So many of the problems in the world today are caused by the belief that the world should change to suit us instead of that we need to change so we can deal with the world. It's crazy the lengths people will go to to avoid doing that work on themselves."
Hey Lightwing, sorry to be off-topic here but this is the only place I can get hold of you. Christofer Nigro & I are trying to get together an email convo with the folks who want to write an article about our collective experiences being banned, suspended, and/or kicked off Medium. I don't know if that happened to you but Christofer mentioned your name this morning. If you're interested in joining us (it'll start with a Zoom meeting) email me at nchardenet @ gmail dot com. (sorry Steve...back to our regularly scheduled on-topic discussions :) )
You're on the list...I just created it. The plan, once we have hear from the rest who may want to be in on it, is to create a Zoom meeting. I have a Calendly account so I'll send it out when we're ready. We'll have to chat about a good time for all. The Zoom call will be to figure out a way to do a collective article, and how we can share and publicize it.
Thanks for the invite. I am only on Medium as a commenter, not a contributor. I own a biz and serve on a business women's board of directors and don't have much free time. That said, anyone can email me at lightwing2@protonmail.com any time you like.
I think it's a great idea to call out bans wherever possible. If enough people begin to push back, we can reach a critical mass and turn the tide. Since I don't have time to do this online in a meaningful way, I donate to lawsuits and also subscribe to Substacks who are pushing back - Free Black Thought, The Commentary, Monica Harris. My most recent donation being to support Tabia Lee's lawsuit against DeAnza College. I've also supported Jodi Shaw, Maud Maron and several others (through FAIR and GoFundMe). Every little bit, no matter from what vector, helps. I salute your efforts! I want the country I swore to defend with my life back. I want a sane left back. We can do this. 🌼
I love this. I was able to reestablish my self-respect when I drew a bright line against seeking approval from people who didn't bother to try to know or understand me. This works for anyone - family, community, whomever. You can't control what other people do. You CAN control how you react to what they do. You always have a choice in that sense - even when you are triggered you have choices. One of the ways out of PTSD is to realize that you have choices even in the midst of a triggering episode. Practice choosing to build emotional resilience.
"One of the ways out of PTSD is to realize that you have choices even in the midst of a triggering episode. Practice choosing to build emotional resilience."
Absolutely spot on. I think this is related to the "injustice" Julia talks about. It sucks that when you're dealing with a genuine emotional trigger, maybe from something truly horrible, you also need to find a way to talk yourself through it rationally instead of blaming the world for "triggering" you. I see how this feels unfair. But as I said to Julia, there's no other way.
So many of the problems in the world today are caused by the belief that the world should change to suit us instead of that we need to change so we can deal with the world. It's crazy the lengths people will go to to avoid doing that work on themselves.
TY again. This sums up my view of Western society these days:
"So many of the problems in the world today are caused by the belief that the world should change to suit us instead of that we need to change so we can deal with the world. It's crazy the lengths people will go to to avoid doing that work on themselves."
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Hey Lightwing, sorry to be off-topic here but this is the only place I can get hold of you. Christofer Nigro & I are trying to get together an email convo with the folks who want to write an article about our collective experiences being banned, suspended, and/or kicked off Medium. I don't know if that happened to you but Christofer mentioned your name this morning. If you're interested in joining us (it'll start with a Zoom meeting) email me at nchardenet @ gmail dot com. (sorry Steve...back to our regularly scheduled on-topic discussions :) )
This sounds super interesting!
You're on the list...I just created it. The plan, once we have hear from the rest who may want to be in on it, is to create a Zoom meeting. I have a Calendly account so I'll send it out when we're ready. We'll have to chat about a good time for all. The Zoom call will be to figure out a way to do a collective article, and how we can share and publicize it.
Thanks for the invite. I am only on Medium as a commenter, not a contributor. I own a biz and serve on a business women's board of directors and don't have much free time. That said, anyone can email me at lightwing2@protonmail.com any time you like.
I think it's a great idea to call out bans wherever possible. If enough people begin to push back, we can reach a critical mass and turn the tide. Since I don't have time to do this online in a meaningful way, I donate to lawsuits and also subscribe to Substacks who are pushing back - Free Black Thought, The Commentary, Monica Harris. My most recent donation being to support Tabia Lee's lawsuit against DeAnza College. I've also supported Jodi Shaw, Maud Maron and several others (through FAIR and GoFundMe). Every little bit, no matter from what vector, helps. I salute your efforts! I want the country I swore to defend with my life back. I want a sane left back. We can do this. 🌼
Okay, well I'll hang on to your email anyway, but I won't add you to the email list I've created. We appreciate your support for free speech!
You are a stoic!👍🏼