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Grow Some Labia's avatar

It's important to note that most of the violence, sexual, fatal, or near-fatal that transpeople face is from their male partners. If any women are abusing transwomen partners I don't know about it but I wouldn't rule it out, and it would likely be far under the rate for cis-het women abusing cis-het males, which happens more than we think but guess what, men don't report either so we can't be sure. And lesbian domestic violence is more prevalent than we thought. So, women do abuse men, trans or otherwise, but most transpeople are getting hurt by their male partners. Which is where women are, mostly getting hurt and murdered by partners.

A month or so ago the TransTwits were trying to paint Queen Elizabeth I as 'trans' or 'nonbinary' because she displayed certain male behavioural characteristics (hard to understand why when you're the head of one of the then-most powerful countries in the world). I got a fair amount of support when I took them to task for characterizing a dead person as such when they couldn't defend themselves.

As for bathrooms, it's time we start pushing back on the third bathroom idea. There are now enough people buying into this 'identity' that it makes perfect sense. I also think it will put an end to the bathroom nonsense once enough people are on board with it. Thanks, Steve, for pointing out that male violence rates aren't notably different for trans vs cis men. I have a research paper on this somewhere in my articles collection.

And if Rob is right that you might be trans if you just 'let yourself go for five minutes', I'll keep all my old clothes and send them to you when I clean out my closet! I'm pretty girly so you can go nuts and explore your occasionally feminine side, LOL!

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“It's important to note that most of the violence, sexual, fatal, or near-fatal that transpeople face is from their male partners.”

Huh, that’s a good point! So much of the data on violence against trans women is skewed by sex work or intimate partner violence. I’ve never actually tried to break down the dangers posed by the general public.

Also, thanks for the offer of the dresses!😄 I lit a scented candle last week and was a woman for a full 28 minutes!

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Grow Some Labia's avatar

Ohhhh, now I hate you! You're *prettier* than me! Bitch! :)

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Chris Fox's avatar

Imagine if every facility from a gas station to a skyscraper had to add additional bathrooms or rearchitect those they already had to appease people who in reality make up 0.0015% of the population.

Meanwhile, animal species are going extinct every day, heatstroke is becoming a major cause of death, crop yields are plummeting, and democracy is dying. Bububut "gender identity."

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Grow Some Labia's avatar

I know. I brought this up 12 years ago with my friend whose burgeoning NB daughter was bringing this bathroom stuff home from school. I'm with ya. I know it's stupid. But I think this will call out the lie that it's "unsafe" for them, anymore than the risk of any male violence against them. Y'all are a terror to each other too :/

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Chris Fox's avatar

"I get on with all kinds of blokes"

— Bob Rusk "Frenzy" (Hitchcock, 1972)

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