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Grow Some Labia's avatar

It certainly serves the powerful quite well. Because victims aren't strong; they're weak. They're good at shooting off their mouths but not changing anything. I'm not sure what Ta-Nehisi Coates is doing to moe the conversation forward, and when I was on Medium Jessica Valenti was (probably still is) their most popular feminist but all she ever did was whine about the 'patriarchy' and complain about men getting away with this or that. Never an article in which she encouraged to do much more than 'make their voices heard' rather than, say, encourage women to report sexual assault at the time and stand behind them when the inevitable shitstorm starts.

Someone challenged me, a few years back on Medium, to stop 'screaming into the void' about growing some labia and offer suggestions and action items. They were right. That's what I've been trying to do, ever since, and I know that i've impacted at least a few hearts and minds and persuaded them to think more powerfully.

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Chris Fox's avatar

When wages converge people could claim making progress. Mustn’t have that. Diminishing rage means lower lecture fees, hence the intangibles like patriarchy.

How can anyone claim patriarchal attitudes are improving?

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Grow Some Labia's avatar

I think they *have* improved, but the ones who were never on board with equality are now empowered to speak their (tiny) mind and protect their dominance. Women haven't done enough to protect their rights - Trump got in with a LOT of their help. I wonder, though, if it will encourage male defection away from equality, particularly those who are turned off by the current misandrist feminist zeitgeist.

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Chris Fox's avatar

I think the misandry was a lot worse in the 70s with womon/womyn and the fish-bicycle thing. A lot of women wanted more equal treatment, they weren't interested in hating their boyfriends and becoming lesbians.

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