It will not be men who bring down trans competing as women because our ox is not being gored. It will be women, athletes missing out on hard earned scholarships and professional women's sports. It's their fight and I'm uncertain that male allies are helpful.
It will not be men who bring down trans competing as women because our ox is not being gored. It will be women, athletes missing out on hard earned scholarships and professional women's sports. It's their fight and I'm uncertain that male allies are helpful.
"It's their fight and I'm uncertain that male allies are helpful."
Hmm, I couldn't disagree more strongly here. I've made this point many times in various forms, but there are vanishingly few (if any) issues that are just the concern of one group. Nor should they be thought of that way.
White allies were helpful in the fight against slavery and segregation, male allies were helpful in the fight for women's voting and workplace and abortion based rights. Straight people were helpful in the fight for the recognition of gay marriage.
It can't really be put any better than Martin Niem├╢ller did in "First They Came..."
Perhaps my poor wording. I have always agreed with what you wrote, but I read Medium and have started to question the idea. It is a sea of expressed hatred for "allies" from within the offended tribe. They deny that it is hate and I can't read minds, but that seems to be modern thought. When someone says something to the effect of, "You are irredeemably a racist, sexist, x-phobe because you are a straight white male" aimed at me for membership in a group they despise, and then say I should join them in tearing down that group, what am I to think? Do they want my help, or do they just want to rant and criticize?
I realize that in many ways, Medium is the most toxic platform on the internet, perhaps because it goes beyond the short attention span, fits on a bumper sticker platforms like twitter so I shouldn't let that make me think it is representative of people in general. I also realize that I'm as guilty as anyone about seeing many so-called allies as disingenuous virtue signalers, so I have my issues too. I don't need the appreciation of those I wish to help, but in this day in age am I actually helpful if that is how I am viewed?
"so I shouldn't let that make me think it is representative of people in general"
Yeah, I think this rule should be applied to the internet in general.ЁЯШЕ It's a natural signal booster for outrage and liars. I don't worry about how I'm viewed if I'm genuinely telling the truth to the best of my ability. Often you just don't get to find out if you were helpful. As I've said before, people rarely change their minds in real time. But maybe something you say will flip a switch at some future point. I've found that numerous times.
I strongly agree. Coalitions are very much needed to turn the tide on some of these toxic ideas. Plus, it humanizes us to reach across the aisle. Helps us to understand one another better.
It will not be men who bring down trans competing as women because our ox is not being gored. It will be women, athletes missing out on hard earned scholarships and professional women's sports. It's their fight and I'm uncertain that male allies are helpful.
"It's their fight and I'm uncertain that male allies are helpful."
Hmm, I couldn't disagree more strongly here. I've made this point many times in various forms, but there are vanishingly few (if any) issues that are just the concern of one group. Nor should they be thought of that way.
White allies were helpful in the fight against slavery and segregation, male allies were helpful in the fight for women's voting and workplace and abortion based rights. Straight people were helpful in the fight for the recognition of gay marriage.
It can't really be put any better than Martin Niem├╢ller did in "First They Came..."
Perhaps my poor wording. I have always agreed with what you wrote, but I read Medium and have started to question the idea. It is a sea of expressed hatred for "allies" from within the offended tribe. They deny that it is hate and I can't read minds, but that seems to be modern thought. When someone says something to the effect of, "You are irredeemably a racist, sexist, x-phobe because you are a straight white male" aimed at me for membership in a group they despise, and then say I should join them in tearing down that group, what am I to think? Do they want my help, or do they just want to rant and criticize?
I realize that in many ways, Medium is the most toxic platform on the internet, perhaps because it goes beyond the short attention span, fits on a bumper sticker platforms like twitter so I shouldn't let that make me think it is representative of people in general. I also realize that I'm as guilty as anyone about seeing many so-called allies as disingenuous virtue signalers, so I have my issues too. I don't need the appreciation of those I wish to help, but in this day in age am I actually helpful if that is how I am viewed?
"so I shouldn't let that make me think it is representative of people in general"
Yeah, I think this rule should be applied to the internet in general.ЁЯШЕ It's a natural signal booster for outrage and liars. I don't worry about how I'm viewed if I'm genuinely telling the truth to the best of my ability. Often you just don't get to find out if you were helpful. As I've said before, people rarely change their minds in real time. But maybe something you say will flip a switch at some future point. I've found that numerous times.
I strongly agree. Coalitions are very much needed to turn the tide on some of these toxic ideas. Plus, it humanizes us to reach across the aisle. Helps us to understand one another better.