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“But the proportion that will ever be subjected to that human-cancelling experience at any time in their life is so negligible, as to be unworthy of mentioning. It just doesn’t happen, and if it did, they have access to resources that they have carefully stashed in case of such an eventuality. “

Wow. Just wow. Thanks, Daniel, for negating the experiences of many children subjected to bullying and awful acts of vicious race-driven violence based on their parents pain after the horrific conditions of Jim Crow.

How are we humans supposed to react? Our parents tell us of terrible injustice, we feel it, we want to protect them. So, we do what we can. There’s a white boy on the bus to school…let’s spit on his hair. There’s a white girl in gym class…let’s laugh at her pale legs.

And so it goes. Perpetuate the negative. Build more bastions of hateful behavior.

What things were “stashed”? How to run, how to deflect, how to walk with eyes down to avoid any hint of confrontation. Learn what humiliation tastes like. Nod acquiescence when the one black girl who kinda befriends you in your majority black / Asian school asks you to use the back door to her house so no one will see the white girl go in the front door.

Daniel is blinded by his own hate. He’s demonized others. He is, in short, a bigot.

When will we confront the fact that doing this to another person irrespective of their skin tone is just wrong. Just stop. Be people first.

Fantasizing about emptying a gun into a white person’s head and thinking you’ve improved the world…what level of hate do you hold? What kind of remorseless Old Testament vengefulness are you embracing here? Guilty unto the nth generation?

It’s a sad and sorrowful filled time when so many use newfound skills and abilities to foment revenge for slights they never experienced. No one alive today experienced slavery. No one alive today in American owned slaves. How do we heal this?

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Steve QJ's avatar

"What things were “stashed”?"

Yeah, I also thought this line in Daniel's reply was telling. It's that old fantasy about how life with white skin automatically brings access to a "stash" of infinite financial resources, stress-free interactions with the police, and a 100% success rate at job interviews.

If you're taught to blame all of your problems on the colour of your skin, it's easy to convince yourself that people whose skin is a different colour don't face any problems.

But again, the Daniels of the world are not the majority. Not even close. Just as the white people who say the same and worse about black people aren't the majority. We *are* healing. But it takes time and a willingness to look beyond our own experience. It takes uncomfortable conversations. And it takes action. Sadly, the impact of racism in America goes far beyond slavery. All of this is happening, just slower than any of us would like.

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